Dating

Dating

Breaking up at 30: Lessons on compatibility, alignment and love

“Time’s up.” I stared ahead at the man in front of me – his face that was once all too familiar, now a blur. He counted down the final minutes, stood up and left. I sat there on that very...

Singlehood

Single, lonely and serious FOMO… can anyone else relate?

Is it just me, or is everyone getting into relationships recently?  Within just the past few months, I have seen more than five couples from my church announcing their relationships on Instagram....

Marriage

A single asks: What does preparing for marriage mean?

I’m single. I’ve been single all my life and for the longest time, I hated being single.  Even after reading articles, books and sermons about singlehood, I still thought of my singlehood as a...

Relationships

Attachment styles: How am I wired to relate?

Adulting is hard and maintaining relationships is even harder. That was what I realised as I journeyed from singlehood to marriage and now parenthood. I often wondered, which relationships are worth...

Dating

We need to talk more about BGR in church

We need to talk more about boy-girl relationships (BGR) in the church. In my experience, BGR used to be a “hush hush” subject in youth service but, at one point, suddenly became the talk...

Church Life

Breaking up in church

Breaking up is, without a doubt, an absolute pain to go through. Add “church” into the mix, and what you have is an extremely complicated situation.  My ex and I were from the same...

Church Life

“Flirt to convert”: Why exploiting attraction and expecting acceptance is dangerous dating

“Flirt to convert” is a phrase regularly tossed about in Gen Z conversations as a joke. For instance, given that the dating pool for believers is significantly smaller compared to others, my...

Real Life, Real People

#SpillTheTeh: Singles open up on singlehood

In our latest episode of #SpillTheTeh, we heard from Christian singles ranging from 23 to 45 on what singlehood is like at each stage of life, and the challenges faced like loneliness, insecurity and...

Dating

Are we over-spiritualising our love lives?

In Bible College (or “Bridal College” as it’s also known), I was asked out on a date by a guy whom I had clearly stuck in the friend-zone list. But my friends encouraged us to be together...