Singlehood

Singlehood

What helped me navigate singlehood in my twenties

I was single for most of my twenties. I didn’t really mind it at first, since most of my ıfriends were also single. But when our peers started to get married one by one, our “single” status...

Discipleship

What does it mean to be a Proverbs 31 woman?

First, let’s remember that Proverbs 31 is something of a conversation between a mother and her son; King Lemuel’s mother was speaking to him about the qualities of a virtuous wife.  But...

Dating

Relationship red flags: Cause for concern or condemnation?

“Eh that guy is a red flag.” Everyone seems to be talking about red flags and green flags these days. But have you ever wondered how these terms came about? It might be a surprise to you, but...

Dating

Breaking up at 30: Lessons on compatibility, alignment and love

“Time’s up.” I stared ahead at the man in front of me – his face that was once all too familiar, now a blur. He counted down the final minutes, stood up and left. I sat there on that very...

Singlehood

Single, lonely and serious FOMO… can anyone else relate?

Is it just me, or is everyone getting into relationships recently?  Within just the past few months, I have seen more than five couples from my church announcing their relationships on Instagram....

Marriage

A single asks: What does preparing for marriage mean?

I’m single. I’ve been single all my life and for the longest time, I hated being single.  Even after reading articles, books and sermons about singlehood, I still thought of my singlehood as a...

Singlehood

What’s so bad about masturbation?

I was 11 when I stumbled upon pornography in a local bookstore. The book was unassuming enough, a pink high heel on a black glossy cover. Its plastic wrapping had been half ripped open which should...

Relationships

Attachment styles: How am I wired to relate?

Adulting is hard and maintaining relationships is even harder. That was what I realised as I journeyed from singlehood to marriage and now parenthood. I often wondered, which relationships are worth...

Dating

We need to talk more about BGR in church

We need to talk more about boy-girl relationships (BGR) in the church. In my experience, BGR used to be a “hush hush” subject in youth service but, at one point, suddenly became the talk...