Singlehood

Discipleship

What does it mean to be a Proverbs 31 woman?

First, let’s remember that Proverbs 31 is something of a conversation between a mother and her son; King Lemuel’s mother was speaking to him about the qualities of a virtuous wife.  But...

Dating

Relationship red flags: Cause for concern or condemnation?

“Eh that guy is a red flag.” Everyone seems to be talking about red flags and green flags these days. But have you ever wondered how these terms came about? It might be a surprise to you, but...

Singlehood

Single, lonely and serious FOMO… can anyone else relate?

Is it just me, or is everyone getting into relationships recently?  Within just the past few months, I have seen more than five couples from my church announcing their relationships on Instagram....

Marriage

A single asks: What does preparing for marriage mean?

I’m single. I’ve been single all my life and for the longest time, I hated being single.  Even after reading articles, books and sermons about singlehood, I still thought of my singlehood as a...

Singlehood

What’s so bad about masturbation?

I was 11 when I stumbled upon pornography in a local bookstore. The book was unassuming enough, a pink high heel on a black glossy cover. Its plastic wrapping had been half ripped open which should...

Relationships

Attachment styles: How am I wired to relate?

Adulting is hard and maintaining relationships is even harder. That was what I realised as I journeyed from singlehood to marriage and now parenthood. I often wondered, which relationships are worth...

Dating

We need to talk more about BGR in church

We need to talk more about boy-girl relationships (BGR) in the church. In my experience, BGR used to be a “hush hush” subject in youth service but, at one point, suddenly became the talk...

Real Life, Real People

#SpillTheTeh: Singles open up on singlehood

In our latest episode of #SpillTheTeh, we heard from Christian singles ranging from 23 to 45 on what singlehood is like at each stage of life, and the challenges faced like loneliness, insecurity and...

Dating

Are we over-spiritualising our love lives?

In Bible College (or “Bridal College” as it’s also known), I was asked out on a date by a guy whom I had clearly stuck in the friend-zone list. But my friends encouraged us to be together...