Singlehood

Marriage

A single asks: What does preparing for marriage mean?

I’m single. I’ve been single all my life and for the longest time, I hated being single.  Even after reading articles, books and sermons about singlehood, I still thought of my singlehood as a...

Singlehood

What’s so bad about masturbation?

I was 11 when I stumbled upon pornography in a local bookstore. The book was unassuming enough, a pink high heel on a black glossy cover. Its plastic wrapping had been half ripped open which should...

Relationships

Attachment styles: How am I wired to relate?

Adulting is hard and maintaining relationships is even harder. That was what I realised as I journeyed from singlehood to marriage and now parenthood. I often wondered, which relationships are worth...

Dating

We need to talk more about BGR in church

We need to talk more about boy-girl relationships (BGR) in the church. In my experience, BGR used to be a “hush hush” subject in youth service but, at one point, suddenly became the talk...

Real Life, Real People

#SpillTheTeh: Singles open up on singlehood

In our latest episode of #SpillTheTeh, we heard from Christian singles ranging from 23 to 45 on what singlehood is like at each stage of life, and the challenges faced like loneliness, insecurity and...

Dating

Are we over-spiritualising our love lives?

In Bible College (or “Bridal College” as it’s also known), I was asked out on a date by a guy whom I had clearly stuck in the friend-zone list. But my friends encouraged us to be together...

Dating

Dating: Am I gonna be forever alone?

Reading this Thir.st article, I was struck by how much it resonated with my dating journey: the situation doesn’t look good and I’m often in low spirits. To keep things brief, I have been...

Singlehood

What does it mean to guard your heart?

I broach this topic with convictions, but also with fear. As I write this, I am brought back to a conversation I had just yesterday with my closest friends. It was a conversation that made me realise...

Singlehood

The girl (still) without the husband: A Valentine’s Day story

It took three events to make this story happen: new heartbreak, old heartbreak, and a meme. All within the span of a month. I don’t need to over-explain the first two, the former being a fresh...