Marriage

Singlehood

Single, lonely and serious FOMO… can anyone else relate?

Is it just me, or is everyone getting into relationships recently?  Within just the past few months, I have seen more than five couples from my church announcing their relationships on Instagram....

Marriage

A single asks: What does preparing for marriage mean?

I’m single. I’ve been single all my life and for the longest time, I hated being single.  Even after reading articles, books and sermons about singlehood, I still thought of my singlehood as a...

Singlehood

What’s so bad about masturbation?

I was 11 when I stumbled upon pornography in a local bookstore. The book was unassuming enough, a pink high heel on a black glossy cover. Its plastic wrapping had been half ripped open which should...

Relationships

Attachment styles: How am I wired to relate?

Adulting is hard and maintaining relationships is even harder. That was what I realised as I journeyed from singlehood to marriage and now parenthood. I often wondered, which relationships are worth...

Dating

We need to talk more about BGR in church

We need to talk more about boy-girl relationships (BGR) in the church. In my experience, BGR used to be a “hush hush” subject in youth service but, at one point, suddenly became the talk...

Church Life

“Flirt to convert”: Why exploiting attraction and expecting acceptance is dangerous dating

“Flirt to convert” is a phrase regularly tossed about in Gen Z conversations as a joke. For instance, given that the dating pool for believers is significantly smaller compared to others, my...

Dating

Are we over-spiritualising our love lives?

In Bible College (or “Bridal College” as it’s also known), I was asked out on a date by a guy whom I had clearly stuck in the friend-zone list. But my friends encouraged us to be together...

Dating

Situationships: More than friendship, less than love?

Friendships with the opposite gender can be pretty tricky to navigate. It’s not at all the same as friendships with the same gender, so our approach towards them has to differ. Male-female...

Dating

Dating: Am I gonna be forever alone?

Reading this Thir.st article, I was struck by how much it resonated with my dating journey: the situation doesn’t look good and I’m often in low spirits. To keep things brief, I have been...