Discipleship

Hurt in church? It wasn’t easy for me to forgive either

As we spoke, her question stopped me in my tracks.  Essentially, she was asking me how my Christian faith plays a part in helping me to forgive others. My good friend, who was a non-believer, went...

Friendship

Burning Bridges or building them? Reflecting on the not-so-innocent games we play

I was at a friend’s house one day when she introduced a new game to me. “It’s quite a fun game!” she promised, and promptly laid a pack of cards on the table. This brought...

Singlehood

“Why still single?” 5 statements on singlehood that can sting

At 19, it was “too early” for me to begin dating. But at 21, I began receiving comments like: “Why you still single?” In a short span of two years, the rules of the game seem...

Church Life

After years of church-hopping, I went back

I must confess: When I first became a Christian, I didn’t like my home church very much. The church was attached to the primary and secondary school I attended, so it became my church by default....

Illness

Fathers in heaven: Reflections from dad’s 18-month battle with terminal cancer

In July 2020, I lost my dad to Myelodysplastic Syndrome (MDS). He was 59 years old and I was 21. In October 2018, my dad visited our family doctor after a fever he developed had persisted for over a...

Relationships

My journey with same-sex attraction

I started developing same-sex attraction (SSA) when I was in primary school, when my senior introduced me to same-sex pornography and molested me for an extended period of time. I was not born with...

Family

Gambling nearly destroyed our family: How I forgave my dad

My father was a successful businessman, until he gambled all his earnings away, embezzled company funds and landed himself in jail. He worked round the clock to pay off his debts after his release,...

Dating

How can I be a godly man during courtship?

I don’t know about you. But this is not a topic I think about much. Nor is this something I talk about with my guy friends. Guys don’t just get together and say: “Hey, let’s...

How-tos & Handles

Help! How do I journey with a “difficult” person?

Have you ever found yourself in a position where you had to deal with someone difficult? In most cases, our instinct would be to walk away from people that we can’t handle. But what if this...