Dating

We need to talk more about BGR in church

We need to talk more about boy-girl relationships (BGR) in the church. In my experience, BGR used to be a “hush hush” subject in youth service but, at one point, suddenly became the talk...

Church Life

Breaking up in church

Breaking up is, without a doubt, an absolute pain to go through. Add “church” into the mix, and what you have is an extremely complicated situation.  My ex and I were from the same...

Church Life

“Flirt to convert”: Why exploiting attraction and expecting acceptance is dangerous dating

“Flirt to convert” is a phrase regularly tossed about in Gen Z conversations as a joke. For instance, given that the dating pool for believers is significantly smaller compared to others, my...

Real Life, Real People

#SpillTheTeh: Singles open up on singlehood

In our latest episode of #SpillTheTeh, we heard from Christian singles ranging from 23 to 45 on what singlehood is like at each stage of life, and the challenges faced like loneliness, insecurity and...

Family

Can I celebrate my mum despite her imperfections?

My relationship with my mum isn’t the best. Growing up, I didn’t feel particularly safe about sharing everything in my life with my mum. She isn’t exactly the kind who would be very expressive...

Dating

Are we over-spiritualising our love lives?

In Bible College (or “Bridal College” as it’s also known), I was asked out on a date by a guy whom I had clearly stuck in the friend-zone list. But my friends encouraged us to be together...

Family

Learning to share the Gospel with my grandparents

My popo (maternal grandmother) is great.  She’s smart despite never really going to school (she learned to read Mandarin all by herself!), resourceful and thrifty.  She makes the best fried eggs...

Real Life, Real People

#SpillTheTeh: Ex-offenders on life after prison

In the latest episode of #SpillTheTeh, we interviewed 3 ex-offenders to hear them share about their lives before and after prison.  Graceson Ang (38) Tian Boon Keng (35) Johnny Chin (49) How we got...

Dating

Situationships: More than friendship, less than love?

Friendships with the opposite gender can be pretty tricky to navigate. It’s not at all the same as friendships with the same gender, so our approach towards them has to differ. Male-female...