Friendship

My “holiness” turned everyone off

I have been a ā€œChristianā€ since my water baptism in 2009Ā ā€“ quotation marks intended. The early years of my faith revolved around being holy, such as by not staying out late, not drinking, not...

Worldview

Compassion without compromise

One of my friends came out to me. He said he was inĀ a same-sex relationship. I found it a highly uncomfortable experience;Ā it shocked me because this friend was a friend in Christ. What was worse...

Friendship

A letter to my gay best friend

Dear You, Iā€™m writing this with trepidation and excitement at the same time. I donā€™t know how youā€™ll feel upon reading it, and some of this has been brimming over for a while. I just didnā€™t...

Culture

Where are our manners?

The other day in the church lobby I sawĀ someone I knew in conversation with the parents of our mutual friend. IĀ was out of earshot, but the body language was plain to see: TheĀ young man’s...

Friendship

When my mentee came out to me

ā€œI have something to tell you. I’mĀ attracted to the same gender.ā€ Someone I was mentoringĀ in church had suddenly asked to meet me. She lookedĀ extremely jittery and it was clear something...

Real Life, Real People

Scarred by the hand of man, saved by the Hand of God: A pastor’s journey of grace

He was only five when it happened. In those days, young Ian loved watching his father play Chinese Chess with the neighbourhood’s older residents. In fact, he looked solely to his father for...

Real Life, Real People

Bullied into a corner ā€“Ā and there I met grace

I was a late bloomer; as recentlyĀ as six years ago I lacked assets, to say the least.Ā As you might imagine, I was teased and taunted with all kinds of nasty names.Ā Airport runway. It isnā€™t a big...

Worldview

I don’t shun you for your beliefs. Could I ask the same from you?

Christians?Ā Haters. Bigots. Hypocrites. Party-poopers. Wet blankets. I’ve heard it all before. I come from an arts school and creative background, so I have friends ā€” many friends, in fact...

Friendship

Who are your good friends?

I’m insatiably curious about people. I find myself constantly seekingĀ out what stories lieĀ behind a name. Through conversations, I get to find out what makes people tick, what makes them sad...