Church Life

There is a place to be vulnerable

“I’m not comfortable to share this with you/everyone, but I’ll let my mentor know.” I’ve been hearing this phrase quite often. I usually nod my head in sympathy.Ā Yeah,...

How-tos & Handles

The 4 stages of forgiveness

The Lord gently said to me one day, “There are still many areas in your heart that hold unforgiveness. You need to forgiveĀ deeplyĀ in order to soar.” Later, He showed me the map to deep...

Relationships

Why I run from the people who love me

Iā€™m a runner. I run from problems. Iā€™ve come to realise that I instinctively put up my walls as defences. I distance myself and turn away from hard times. Itā€™s so easy to run when things are...

Singlehood

Almost 30, still single ā€“Ā but things are looking up

There are many reasons for someoneĀ to be single. Perhaps the standards we seek of our ideal partner might be too high: Maybe you’re holding out for an adventurous woman who is beautiful, yet...

Discipleship

Don’t numb the pain

Sigmund Freud once proposed that the mind seeks to avoid pain and findĀ pleasure. In this life, we will get our hearts get broken. People might say mean things to us. Something or someone beloved...

Marriage

So you want to get married

So you want to get married …Ā  Are you crazy?! Why would you want to do that? Donā€™t you know how difficult marriage is? Marriage has been on the decline worldwide. In the US, it is estimated...

Real Life, Real People

At 23, I had an abortion. I’ve never told anyone,Ā until now

I was about 23 years old when I was faced with the most difficult decision of my life. I wasn’t married, but I gotĀ pregnant. This was probably the worst thing that couldā€™ve happened to me...

Friendship

Bromance is dead

Think of your three closest friends. Now think about the last time you spoke to each one of them. Next, try to recall what makes them come alive ā€“ their wildest dreams and greatest fears. If...

Singlehood

I’m single. How could I possibly understand the love of Christ?

I’ve reached that age. The age when all your friends are either getting married or posting their engagement photos on Facebook. WhenĀ your heart starts to hurt when you realise how single you...