Christmas

To my friends this Christmas: Your presence has made all the difference

Reflecting on the year as it comes to a close, I see myself still walking on the road to recovery from the great hurt in my life. I was asking myself typical strength-based questions that...

Relationships

Am I still significant without a significant other?

Names have been changed for privacy. Several years back, a girl called Stephanie and I worked together on a children’s camp for Church. Having only just moved on from a broken heart not too while...

Relationships

The God of irreconcilable differences

There is no way we can save this. No hope that we’ll ever work out our problems. We’re too different. Too far gone. We just have to accept it as irretrievable. Unfixable. One too many...

Relationships

That forever kind of love

What is love? To be loved but not feel loved. Is that still love? Most of us love only in our own definition of love, the way we personally receive and understand love to look like. We speak...

Faith

Learning to love my imperfect cell group

Ah, cell group. I didn’t attend youth cell group as a Secondary School student unlike most people who start attending one after they graduated from Sunday School. From the outside in, this is...

Relationships

If marriage is not a game, why do we still cheat?

“My daddy warned me about men like you He said, ‘Baby girl, he’s playing you.'” (Beyoncé, “Daddy Lessons”) When rumours of infidelity swirled around the power...

Relationships

Children of divorce, how will we win the fight?

“She’s okay what. Look at her. Does she not look okay?” When my parents’ divorce was finalised and the relatives were informed, I was a topic of discussion at the lunch table. Not fully...

Relationships

40 and forgotten: When will I be married?

I am a single in my 40s who is still hoping to get married. So whenever I read a piece on singlehood by someone under 30, my heart’s always tempted to say, “Wait till you hear my...

Faith

I tried to be an extrovert for years

I’ve only recently accepted that I’m introverted. Growing up, I wasn’t entirely in the dark about my personality. I remember recognising early on that I was a little bit different...