Disabilities

What could drive a father to strangle his sons? A lonely desperation I know all too well

Reading about how Xavier Yap strangled his two autistic twin sons to “relieve” the caregiving burden on his wife, 32-year-old ABIGAIL LEE broke down and wept uncontrollably. As someone...

Family

Struggling to have conversations about the value of family, marriage and children? Me too

Iā€™ve been pondering over the struggles of my generation in articulating the value of marriage and family. For starters, it was recently reported that Singaporeā€™s total fertility rate has hit...

Dating

We need to talk more about BGR in church

We need to talk more about boy-girl relationships (BGR) in the church. In my experience, BGR used to be a “hush hush” subject in youth service but, at one point, suddenly became the talk...

Church Life

Breaking up in church

Breaking up is, without a doubt, an absolute pain to go through. Add “church” into the mix, and what you have is an extremely complicated situation.Ā  My ex and I were from the same...

Church Life

“Flirt to convert”: Why exploiting attraction and expecting acceptance is dangerous dating

ā€œFlirt to convertā€ is a phrase regularly tossed about in Gen Z conversations as a joke. For instance, given that the dating pool for believers is significantly smaller compared to others, my...

Real Life, Real People

#SpillTheTeh: Singles open up on singlehood

In our latest episode of #SpillTheTeh, we heard from Christian singles ranging from 23 to 45 on what singlehood is like at each stage of life, and the challenges faced like loneliness, insecurity and...

Family

Can I celebrate my mum despite her imperfections?

My relationship with my mum isnā€™t the best. Growing up, I didnā€™t feel particularly safe about sharing everything in my life with my mum. She isnā€™t exactly the kind who would be very expressive...

Dating

Are we over-spiritualising our love lives?

In Bible College (or ā€œBridal Collegeā€ as itā€™s also known), I was asked out on a date by a guy whom I had clearly stuck in the friend-zone list. But my friends encouraged us to be together...

Family

Learning to share the Gospel with my grandparents

My popo (maternal grandmother) is great.Ā  Sheā€™s smart despite never really going to school (she learned to read Mandarin all by herself!), resourceful and thrifty.Ā  She makes the best fried eggs...