Marriage

A single asks: What does preparing for marriage mean?

I’m single. I’ve been single all my life and for the longest time, I hated being single.  Even after reading articles, books and sermons about singlehood, I still thought of my singlehood as a...

Singlehood

What’s so bad about masturbation?

I was 11 when I stumbled upon pornography in a local bookstore. The book was unassuming enough, a pink high heel on a black glossy cover. Its plastic wrapping had been half ripped open which should...

Relationships

Attachment styles: How am I wired to relate?

Adulting is hard and maintaining relationships is even harder. That was what I realised as I journeyed from singlehood to marriage and now parenthood. I often wondered, which relationships are worth...

Friendship

No one told me friendships would be this hard at 30

Is it just me, or is it hard to make friends – and harder still to keep them? That was the lamentation I made to a friend in between bites of an overpriced Subway sandwich. I didn’t know it at...

Culture

“What if my birthday isn’t happy?”: Unpacking the phenomenon of Birthday Blues

Have you ever felt unexplained moodiness and sadness every time your birthday approaches? Every year when my birthday rolls around, I find myself feeling extremely blue. And I can’t remember...

Disabilities

What could drive a father to strangle his sons? A lonely desperation I know all too well

Reading about how Xavier Yap strangled his two autistic twin sons to “relieve” the caregiving burden on his wife, 32-year-old ABIGAIL LEE broke down and wept uncontrollably. As someone...

Family

Struggling to have conversations about the value of family, marriage and children? Me too

I’ve been pondering over the struggles of my generation in articulating the value of marriage and family. For starters, it was recently reported that Singapore’s total fertility rate has hit...

Dating

We need to talk more about BGR in church

We need to talk more about boy-girl relationships (BGR) in the church. In my experience, BGR used to be a “hush hush” subject in youth service but, at one point, suddenly became the talk...

Church Life

Breaking up in church

Breaking up is, without a doubt, an absolute pain to go through. Add “church” into the mix, and what you have is an extremely complicated situation.  My ex and I were from the same...