Dating

Breaking up at 30: Lessons on compatibility, alignment and love

“Time’s up.” I stared ahead at the man in front of me – his face that was once all too familiar, now a blur. He counted down the final minutes, stood up and left. I sat there on that very...

Friendship

When a friend falls away from faith

It was a grim catch-up. My friend had lost his close friend months ago, and he’s been angry with God ever since. I tried to comfort him and steer him back to God. The Lord has good plans for His...

Family

Remembering Dad: Olivia and Ashley Chean’s eulogies

OLIVIA CHEAN If there’s anything that I’ve learned over the past five days, it’s how much I don’t know about my dad. He wore many hats. He was the National Director of Youth With A Mission...

Singlehood

Single, lonely and serious FOMO… can anyone else relate?

Is it just me, or is everyone getting into relationships recently?  Within just the past few months, I have seen more than five couples from my church announcing their relationships on Instagram....

Marriage

A single asks: What does preparing for marriage mean?

I’m single. I’ve been single all my life and for the longest time, I hated being single.  Even after reading articles, books and sermons about singlehood, I still thought of my singlehood as a...

Singlehood

What’s so bad about masturbation?

I was 11 when I stumbled upon pornography in a local bookstore. The book was unassuming enough, a pink high heel on a black glossy cover. Its plastic wrapping had been half ripped open which should...

Relationships

Attachment styles: How am I wired to relate?

Adulting is hard and maintaining relationships is even harder. That was what I realised as I journeyed from singlehood to marriage and now parenthood. I often wondered, which relationships are worth...

Friendship

No one told me friendships would be this hard at 30

Is it just me, or is it hard to make friends – and harder still to keep them? That was the lamentation I made to a friend in between bites of an overpriced Subway sandwich. I didn’t know it at...

Culture

“What if my birthday isn’t happy?”: Unpacking the phenomenon of Birthday Blues

Have you ever felt unexplained moodiness and sadness every time your birthday approaches? Every year when my birthday rolls around, I find myself feeling extremely blue. And I can’t remember...