Friendship

Friendship

A letter to my gay best friend

Dear You, I’m writing this with trepidation and excitement at the same time. I don’t know how you’ll feel upon reading it, and some of this has been brimming over for a while. I just didn’t...

Culture

Where are our manners?

The other day in the church lobby I saw someone I knew in conversation with the parents of our mutual friend. I was out of earshot, but the body language was plain to see: The young man’s...

Friendship

When my mentee came out to me

“I have something to tell you. I’m attracted to the same gender.” Someone I was mentoring in church had suddenly asked to meet me. She looked extremely jittery and it was clear something...

Real Life, Real People

Bullied into a corner – and there I met grace

I was a late bloomer; as recently as six years ago I lacked assets, to say the least. As you might imagine, I was teased and taunted with all kinds of nasty names. Airport runway. It isn’t a big...

Worldview

I don’t shun you for your beliefs. Could I ask the same from you?

Christians? Haters. Bigots. Hypocrites. Party-poopers. Wet blankets. I’ve heard it all before. I come from an arts school and creative background, so I have friends — many friends, in fact...

Friendship

Who are your good friends?

I’m insatiably curious about people. I find myself constantly seeking out what stories lie behind a name. Through conversations, I get to find out what makes people tick, what makes them sad...

Relationships

Labels: Are we more than friends?

I like hanging out with the boys. They offer a different dimension to friendship. In some ways, guys and their perspective keep me grounded. I appreciate their practicality and the way they’re...

Worldview

Coming out Christian

I am the worst at confrontation. Don’t let the volume of my voice and weight of my words fool you. It’s probably why I enjoy giving speeches rather than engaging in debates. Join the fight? Pick...

Discipleship

Guard your heart

The other day I asked God why I was given this heart. The one I have looks like it’s about to fall apart; it’s purple with bruises and has weathered through heartbreaks. I’ve...