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Why I run from the people who love me

I’m a runner. I run from problems. I’ve come to realise that I instinctively put up my walls as defences. I distance myself and turn away from hard times. It’s so easy to run when things are...

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The depressed husband, autistic child – and the woman who kept her family together

My husband and I really enjoyed life with each other. We did things together, we shared openly about everything. He would help me to clarify my thinking. He was my confidante. He was also my support...

Family

How to honour your dad when it’s hard to love him

Some of us have a wonderful relationship with our dads. Your childhood might have been filled with warm memories of him and you’re deeply assured of his love for you. Some of us, however, have a...

Family

You have an audience with your relatives once a year. Don’t waste it

Chinese New Year, in the recent few years, has become a season of poignant reflection for me. It was during Chinese New Year that I saw my grandmother and grandfather for the last time, in 2011 and...

Family

Ready to louhei? Toss to the JOY of family

FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT: CHINESE NEW YEAR EDITION On the seventh day of Chinese New Year, we put down our calorie-filled jars and pause for a salad – yusheng or louhei – salad, the Chinese way. The...

Relationships

The quest for true love

“I love the bak chor mee here!”  “I think I’m in love!” “God loves you!” Any of these phrases familiar to you? Thanks to pop culture, loose usage of the word “love” has cheapened...

Relationships

Teach me to love

What is love? Christians like to go Greek when trying to understand the things of God. So here we go. The Greeks, in their sophistication, would be appalled at the crude generalisations of love in...

Family

Parental guidance is advised

You’d think it gets easier as you get older: Loving the ones who carried you into the world. The ones who gave you your name. Your first teachers in the school of life. Maybe your relationship...

Family

Time out, 2016

Is it already the end of the year? I can’t believe it. It seems like yesterday that I was counting down to 2016.  When I look back on 2016, I think of two incidents. First, my dad got me a...