Dating

Dating

How do I know if I’m ready for a relationship?

Recently, I was having lunch with a friend when the conversation pivoted to relationships. “I just know I’m not ready for a relationship,” she declared. My friend spoke with such certainty and...

Dating

How does healing look like after a break-up?

Have you ever wondered how long it would take to heal from a break-up? I struggled to even imagine ending a relationship, let alone a long-term one. But that was what happened when I ended my...

Dating

Friendzone: How to establish boundaries with grace

“I think we should just stay friends.” That day, I drew a clear line between us. There was no turning back the clock now — the friendzone was established. Ten months ago, we were total...

Dating

IG Live with Cliff Tam and Tam Wai Jia: Dealing with hurt and heartbreak

In Part 1 of our notes from our Instagram Live with Cliff and Wai Jia, we covered questions such as should girls make the first move, how do know when you’ve met “the one” and what...

Dating

IG Live with Cliff Tam and Tam Wai Jia: Your questions on dating and relationships answered

From strangers who connected online to now a couple celebrating 10 years of marriage, Cliff Tam and Tam Wai Jia’s long-distance love story has intrigued many.  We sit down with them for our...

Dating

What we learnt from our disaster proposal (and how to avoid one)

“You OK for us to share this?” I asked nervously. “Yea, no worries,” shrugged Cliff, “It’s been so many years. And hopefully, it’ll resonate with someone!” Little did we expect for my...

Dating

How important is physical attraction in a relationship?

“Cliff, do you realise all the girls that you used to pursue have one thing in common? They all have long hair. I have long hair.” This was Wai Jia’s response after seeing the pictures of the...

Studies & NS

Blurred boundaries: How can we navigate grey areas while living on campus?

As a bright-eyed freshman, staying in hall seemed like the “must do” on everyone’s university bucket list. So you can imagine my joy when I got offered a spot. Entering university...

Dating

What if my partner is poor? 5 questions to consider

When my father, a savvy businessman, first met with my then-boyfriend-and-missionary, Cliff, to get to know him better, he told Cliff to bring along an Excel sheet of all his savings and monthly...