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I had an abortion, and the guilt and shame almost killed me

I stared at the rows of bottles in the room Marina had ushered me into. I’d been awestruck by the sights in New Zealand over the past few weeks, but nothing could prepare me for this. In the jars...

Culture

I was fit, strong – but I hated my body

I’m a SEA Games Medallist in discus throwing. I’m fit, but when I was a teen, I hated my body so much! I remember being in an all-girls cell group in church when I was 14, and we were...

Culture

I looked down on women

As the younger sister, I compared myself to my brother all my life. Perhaps I had some sort of inferiority complex. Or maybe I was just a kiasu individual. Either way, it just didn’t help...

Culture

Why was I made a woman?

When I was younger, the only thing I wanted was to be male. I think this impulse began when I was about 5. I frequently cried in frustration at how differently – biased, I felt – my parents...

Faith

I’m a woman and I struggle with pornography and masturbation

No, you didn’t read the title wrongly.  Girls are not immediately associated with such sexual sin, but being female does not make us immune to these things. I’m a woman, and I have struggled...

Culture

Ah ma and the afterlife: My seventh-month thoughts

“Cannot swim today, it’s too late already, later the zhui gwee (‘water ghost’ in Hokkien) catch you ah.” It was that time of the year again – the seventh month (七月) in the...

Culture

In Singapore, we must choose life

“Father, can You take this burden away from me?” With my hands clasped tightly and my head bowed down, tears fell in fat drops onto my hand while my mind struggled to understand what was...

Faith

How to create a safer church community for people with same-sex attraction

I’ve been a Christian for 24 years – and lived with same-sex desires for nearly 20 of them. A few years ago, the Lord convicted my heart that it was not part of His will for me to act on...

Culture

How to waste your life

“I now see that I spent most of my life in doing neither what I ought nor what I liked.” (C S Lewis, The Screwtape Letters) I think I spend most of my days wasting my life away with nothingness...