Friendship

Real friends don’t shy from difficult conversations

I have a habit of putting people into categories: Those I should stay far away from, those I’m happy to keep at arm’s length as acquaintances, all the way up to those with whom I can...

Family

Time out, 2016

Is it already the end of the year? I can’t believe it. It seems like yesterday that I was counting down to 2016.  When I look back on 2016, I think of two incidents. First, my dad got me a...

Singlehood

The Sour Single, the Clueless Church and the Kaypoh Kaki

Why do you think many are choosing to stay single? I think single young adults are idealistic about what it means to be married. We are looking for someone to complete us; we are looking for someone...

Dating

I had my heart broken in church

Growing up in church I’ve witnessed a fair share of broken hearts and experienced it first-hand as well. People are shocked when they hear of this. Isn’t the church supposed to be a place of...

Marriage

What if I don’t want to get married?

My mom’s favourite question: “Do you have a boyfriend ah?” Her second favourite: “When are you going to have one ah?” Our society places such a high value on BGRs. It’s not just my mom....

Dating

Is there The One?

Boy meets girl. They begin talking to each other on a regular basis. They start hanging out. They grow attracted to each other. But then they hesitate to take the relationship to a deeper...

Worldview

Let’s talk about sex: When is safe sex really safe?

It depends. What do you hope to achieve? What’s the end-goal? If your point of view is that teenagers will be teenagers, with hormones oozing out of every pore and their brains barely contained...

Dating

I was looking for love in all the wrong places – until love found me

There is a peculiar air about Jaime Wong – speaking to her, it feels as if she does not have a care in the world, while still being deeply engaged with it. The tennis coach is an accomplished...

Dating

Unlucky in love? Learn from Leah

One of the most well-known love triangles in the Bible, the story of how Jacob ends up marrying sisters Leah and Rachel in Genesis 29 has been a mystery to most women of the modern age. In a...