Church Life

Solving the muddle of the Holy Huddle

Quick, count how many Christian friends you have. Now count how many non-Christian friends you have. Chances are, the former outnumber the latter. Christians often use the concept of “in but not of...

Singlehood

Give me marriage or give me death, I told God

When I was 27, I left everything I had and knew in Singapore to pursue God’s calling for me as a missionary in Japan. On the morning of my 28th birthday, I sat in a cafe in Tokyo, and wrote in my...

Relationships

The quest for true love

“I love the bak chor mee here!”  “I think I’m in love!” “God loves you!” Any of these phrases familiar to you? Thanks to pop culture, loose usage of the word “love” has cheapened...

Relationships

Teach me to love

What is love? Christians like to go Greek when trying to understand the things of God. So here we go. The Greeks, in their sophistication, would be appalled at the crude generalisations of love in...

Worldview

To my fellow Christian extroverts: The struggle is real, I know

Is it just me, or does everyone want to be an introvert nowadays? Even the introverts have noticed. Like cats and other cute animals, the Internet loves them. A quick Google unearths some real-life...

Singlehood

The cure for loneliness: Finding peace in a Table For One

Loneliness seizes us in unexpected seasons. I recently got to know a pastor who, after years of blissful marriage, suddenly experienced loneliness when her husband dived into depression. To protect...

Family

Parental guidance is advised

You’d think it gets easier as you get older: Loving the ones who carried you into the world. The ones who gave you your name. Your first teachers in the school of life. Maybe your relationship...

Singlehood

Super un-single: The single-minded pursuit of perfect love

Facebook reminded me the other day to complete my decade-old profile. For one, it prompted, you still haven’t chosen a relationship status. And I’m sure it would have added, if collected data...

Friendship

Real friends don’t shy from difficult conversations

I have a habit of putting people into categories: Those I should stay far away from, those I’m happy to keep at arm’s length as acquaintances, all the way up to those with whom I can...