Relationships

Teach me to love

What is love? Christians like to go Greek when trying to understand the things of God. So here we go. The Greeks, in their sophistication, would be appalled at the crude generalisations of love in...

Worldview

To my fellow Christian extroverts: The struggle is real, I know

Is it just me, or does everyone want to be an introvert nowadays? Even the introverts have noticed. Like cats and other cute animals, the Internet loves them. A quick Google unearths some real-life...

Singlehood

The cure for loneliness: Finding peace in a Table For One

Loneliness seizes us in unexpected seasons. I recently got to know a pastor who, after years of blissful marriage, suddenly experienced loneliness when her husband dived into depression. To protect...

Family

Parental guidance is advised

You’d think it gets easier as you get older: Loving the ones who carried you into the world. The ones who gave you your name. Your first teachers in the school of life. Maybe your relationship...

Singlehood

Super un-single: The single-minded pursuit of perfect love

Facebook reminded me the other day to complete my decade-old profile. For one, it prompted, you still haven’t chosen a relationship status. And I’m sure it would have added, if collected data...

Friendship

Real friends don’t shy from difficult conversations

I have a habit of putting people into categories: Those I should stay far away from, those I’m happy to keep at arm’s length as acquaintances, all the way up to those with whom I can...

Family

Time out, 2016

Is it already the end of the year? I can’t believe it. It seems like yesterday that I was counting down to 2016.  When I look back on 2016, I think of two incidents. First, my dad got me a...

Singlehood

The Sour Single, the Clueless Church and the Kaypoh Kaki

Why do you think many are choosing to stay single? I think single young adults are idealistic about what it means to be married. We are looking for someone to complete us; we are looking for someone...

Dating

I had my heart broken in church

Growing up in church I’ve witnessed a fair share of broken hearts and experienced it first-hand as well. People are shocked when they hear of this. Isn’t the church supposed to be a place of...