Friendship

The lost art of friendship

People have always expected me to have it all together. I don’t blame them. I make it easy for them to believe it. So because of that, my friends always come to me with their issues and the...

Mental Health

The social butterfly that grew lonely

“I think I’m struggling with loneliness.” The first time I admitted it out loud was three days ago. I was having dinner with a close friend, and we were on the topic of “things you don’t...

Family

Letter to my daughter

My dear Daughter, You are barely three years old now and already I worry about the world you will have to face in the future. Actually, I’ve been worrying since you were in the womb.  I worry...

Real Life, Real People

Where are you, my babies? Two lost children later, I finally became a mum

One midnight in April 1999, I was pushed into the operation theatre for an emergency operation. I was then 6 weeks pregnant. My first child was growing in my right fallopian tube and the tube was...

Family

Draw yo’ mama!

“I was 25 when I got married and I told Jerry I didn’t want children.” Samantha Chia’s eyes crinkle into her trademark smile. She has the undeniable air of a mother, loving...

Family

I forgive you, Mum. Will you forgive me?

“One look at you and anyone can tell you are your father’s daughter. But you are a tough cookie just like me. I raised tough children,” my mother likes to say with pride. We get a...

Singlehood

Redeeming broken dreams: A journey of spiritual motherhood

“Sometimes when I see kids running around, I imagine them as my own,” Deb remarks. She gazes into the distance through moist, red eyes. Coughing out a few girlish giggles, she quickly...

Family

Will I ever be a mum?

As Singaporeans, we know the drill by the time we’re in our teenage years. Get married young, enjoy your first few years as a couple, work hard at your jobs and have children when you’re...

Family

A thank-you card is nice. But that’s not why I mother

For one Sunday every year, instead of being the one to have to wake up early to dish out cereal and toast for breakfast, I get served breakfast instead. Last year, I was treated to heart-shaped...