Relationships

No agenda love: Carrying the heart of God

I must constantly make this clear to myself: The purpose of helping, serving, caring for or befriending anyone is to represent Godā€™s heart to them. It is to express to them how He feels toward them...

Relationships

Singleness and contentment: Are they mutually exclusive?

Does being single bother you? Well, it bothers me. Sometimes. I still feel slightly embarrassed when asked if I am single. It’s even worse when everyone else in the room is attached.Ā What if...

Relationships

Alpha girl, beta boy

Between my boyfriend and I, we can both safely say that Iā€™m the louder, more domineering half. Iā€™m forthcoming, heā€™s laid-back; Iā€™m action-oriented, heā€™s … well, let’s just say...

Faith

When it’s okay to say "No"

Earlier this year, my schedule looked like this:Ā Work, weekly curriculum planning for English enrichment, monthly volunteer reading to two pre-schoolers. In church, I have served as an usher for the...

Relationships

Should couples travel together?

“Yes, I would go overseas with my boyfriend or girlfriendĀ ā€“ even if itĀ meansĀ we would beĀ tempted sexually.” That’s how 36% of young adult Christians in Singapore...

Relationships

Love insurance for the brokenhearted

Have you cried to the sound of a breaking heart? I’ve seenĀ too muchĀ heartache among my friends. Somehow,Ā more often than not, it’s the female who gets hurt more. Iā€™ve...

Relationships

Living in the tension

Tension. Some of us face it almost every day. Maybe at work. Maybe in our relationships.Ā Or maybe, for you it’s aĀ deep internal struggle. I face this tension whenĀ I find myself pulled in...

Relationships

Seasonal friendships: When people come and go

ā€œWe’ll be friends forever!ā€ But forever didn’t last long. We began drifting apart the moment our schedules evolved from convenient to conflicting. Before I knew it, I had become a...

Faith

Whatā€™s the point of church if we can worship God anywhere?

IĀ spent all my free time finishing work for a church missions project. I was exhausted, irritable, and just wantedĀ to hide from the world. I text Sarah*, a close friend from church, informing her...