Family

To the first man who ever loved me

I’ve got a funny relationship with my father. I mean, I inherited his great looks (ahem ahem) and his passion for music, so from the outside, many would assume that I’m very much like...

Studies & NS

When project work isn’t working out

Working in groups has never been my thing, mainly because group work forces people to work together. That means a lot more reliance on one another. Time invested in communicating with fellow group...

Real Life, Real People

I kept walking right back to the love that was destroying me

I am a survivor of sexual and emotional abuse in my childhood. In my healing process, I’ve realised that while I thought I was unaffected by the repeated sexual assaults, the hurt and repeated...

Singlehood

Single and cool with it

At 24, I’m not really at the age where I should be worrying about “feeling single”. It feels like I just graduated yesterday, and it hasn’t even been a year since I started working...

Friendship

Who needs friends?

Friendship. That was my most hated word growing up. I was jaded on this front very early in life. I only remember myself having three seasons of friendship. My whole life. One. Primary 4. I became...

Friendship

The lost art of friendship

People have always expected me to have it all together. I don’t blame them. I make it easy for them to believe it. So because of that, my friends always come to me with their issues and the...

Mental Health

The social butterfly that grew lonely

“I think I’m struggling with loneliness.” The first time I admitted it out loud was three days ago. I was having dinner with a close friend, and we were on the topic of “things you don’t...

Family

Letter to my daughter

My dear Daughter, You are barely three years old now and already I worry about the world you will have to face in the future. Actually, I’ve been worrying since you were in the womb.  I worry...

Real Life, Real People

Where are you, my babies? Two lost children later, I finally became a mum

One midnight in April 1999, I was pushed into the operation theatre for an emergency operation. I was then 6 weeks pregnant. My first child was growing in my right fallopian tube and the tube was...