Relationships

She wanted to be a boy, and I loved her

I met Cassie when we were 17, at a leadership camp in school. We were assigned to sleep in the same bunk with a couple of other girls, and it wasn’t long before I noticed that she was strangely...

Faith

Are you compartmentalising your faith?

My university friends and I were on a short but enjoyable holiday after the semester had ended. Sitting on the floor of a railway station in Malaysia, I listened, captivated, as my university...

Relationships

Should we move in together before getting married?

“You should move in with him before there’s no way out!” My recently engaged friend shared with me that her colleagues were encouraging her to cohabitate with her boyfriend. Their...

National Service

With my rifle and my buddy and my … NS ministry

6 July 2018 was the day of my enlistment. As a cell group leader prior to enlistment, I had made plans to stay back in the tertiary ministry: I wanted to disciple the younger guys there to be an...

Relationships

Why is it hard to say sorry?

Drama. Remember the fiasco back in 2012 when a Member of Parliament was embroiled in a sex scandal? And then the Lee family dispute over the Oxley House? Everyone loves juicy gossip especially when...

Relationships

How important are Christian friends in uni?

A friend I met in university (who is now working overseas) shared that living the immigrant life means you’re forever questioning who you are and where you belong. While spending four years in the...

Culture

The pursuit of sexual purity

One of the struggles many dating Christians face is sexual intimacy. Our first encounter with our sexuality is probably when we hit puberty. That’s when our hormones start to fluctuate – leading...

Relationships

The sting of rejection

“I’m so sorry, but I just don’t see you in that way…” The camera cuts to a wide shot of two individuals at a 45º angle, then pans between one pensive face and another (devastated) one. An...

Culture

My love affair with pornography

I am intimately familiar with sin. I was around 12 when I had my first experience of pornography, one which started a love affair that lasted more than a decade. Porn seemed to satisfy this deep and...