Marriage

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Should we move in together before getting married?

“You should move in with him before there’s no way out!” My recently engaged friend shared with me that her colleagues were encouraging her to cohabitate with her boyfriend. Their...

Relationships

What I learnt from an adulteress

Recently, I came across an article in which the writer chronicled her experiences of sleeping with married men. The author wasn’t looking for a long-term relationships, and since married men...

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So I just became a father

I officially became a father in early January. Although I had already been “unofficially” initiated 9 months ago, being able to feast my eyes on my daughter when she arrived triggered something...

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Who would give this bride away?

It was the first meeting to plan our wedding. All of us involved in the preparation were buzzing with ideas and enthusiasm, right until the pastor turned to me and asked, “Who would be walking you...

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If marriage is not a game, why do we still cheat?

“My daddy warned me about men like you He said, ‘Baby girl, he’s playing you.'” (Beyoncé, “Daddy Lessons”) When rumours of infidelity swirled around the power...

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Children of divorce, how will we win the fight?

“She’s okay what. Look at her. Does she not look okay?” When my parents’ divorce was finalised and the relatives were informed, I was a topic of discussion at the lunch table. Not fully...

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When dad cheated on mum

I first discovered my dad was cheating on my mum when I was 20. It started off with fishy images I saw him receiving on his phone. Then, he started to make morning calls every day after my mum had...

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Have we lost the art of proper conversation?

“Okay everyone, we have a new person with us today. Let’s introduce ourselves: Name, age, what we’re currently doing, and one fun fact.” Eventually, it was the new...

How-tos & Handles

The 4 stages of forgiveness

The Lord gently said to me one day, “There are still many areas in your heart that hold unforgiveness. You need to forgive deeply in order to soar.” Later, He showed me the map to deep...