Marriage

Singlehood

Is it better not to marry?

The other night my sister and I found ourselves talking about singleness because we’re, you know, single. We talked about God’s gift of sexuality, and both agreed that it’s a...

Marriage

I am a Pastor’s Wife: The good women beside the men

This might be a picture that has been painted of a pastor’s wife: Sitting quietly beside her husband in the front row at church service, usually with the kids in tow (and in check). They are...

Marriage

SUPERMARRIED: Marriage, it gets better with age

This Valentine’s Day, we invited 3 special couples to join us for our very first game show: SUPERMARRIED. With the face of marriage increasingly coloured by the lenses of social media, what...

Relationships

Should we move in together before getting married?

“You should move in with him before there’s no way out!” My recently engaged friend shared with me that her colleagues were encouraging her to cohabitate with her boyfriend. Their...

Relationships

What I learnt from an adulteress

Recently, I came across an article in which the writer chronicled her experiences of sleeping with married men. The author wasn’t looking for a long-term relationships, and since married men...

Relationships

So I just became a father

I officially became a father in early January. Although I had already been “unofficially” initiated 9 months ago, being able to feast my eyes on my daughter when she arrived triggered something...

Relationships

Who would give this bride away?

It was the first meeting to plan our wedding. All of us involved in the preparation were buzzing with ideas and enthusiasm, right until the pastor turned to me and asked, “Who would be walking you...

Relationships

If marriage is not a game, why do we still cheat?

“My daddy warned me about men like you He said, ‘Baby girl, he’s playing you.'” (Beyoncé, “Daddy Lessons”) When rumours of infidelity swirled around the power...

Relationships

Children of divorce, how will we win the fight?

“She’s okay what. Look at her. Does she not look okay?” When my parents’ divorce was finalised and the relatives were informed, I was a topic of discussion at the lunch table. Not fully...