Friendship

How-tos & Handles

The 4 stages of forgiveness

The Lord gently said to me one day, “There are still many areas in your heart that hold unforgiveness. You need to forgive deeply in order to soar.” Later, He showed me the map to deep...

Relationships

Why I run from the people who love me

I’m a runner. I run from problems. I’ve come to realise that I instinctively put up my walls as defences. I distance myself and turn away from hard times. It’s so easy to run when things are...

Friendship

Bromance is dead

Think of your three closest friends. Now think about the last time you spoke to each one of them. Next, try to recall what makes them come alive – their wildest dreams and greatest fears. If...

Church Life

Solving the muddle of the Holy Huddle

Quick, count how many Christian friends you have. Now count how many non-Christian friends you have. Chances are, the former outnumber the latter. Christians often use the concept of “in but not of...

Relationships

Teach me to love

What is love? Christians like to go Greek when trying to understand the things of God. So here we go. The Greeks, in their sophistication, would be appalled at the crude generalisations of love in...

Worldview

To my fellow Christian extroverts: The struggle is real, I know

Is it just me, or does everyone want to be an introvert nowadays? Even the introverts have noticed. Like cats and other cute animals, the Internet loves them. A quick Google unearths some real-life...

Friendship

Real friends don’t shy from difficult conversations

I have a habit of putting people into categories: Those I should stay far away from, those I’m happy to keep at arm’s length as acquaintances, all the way up to those with whom I can...