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Growing up in a lower-income family, I hated my life

My parents separated when I was 10. I was too young to understand anything about separation, but one thing I knew for sure was that our house now felt emptier. After the separation, my mother moved...

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“Missing out on mum”: Learning to love my mentally-ill mum

I missed out on a lot of things as a girl because of my mum’s mental illness. I didn’t have someone to talk to about boys, about my period, about skincare. And I never had someone to nag me about...

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So I just became a father

I officially became a father in early January. Although I had already been “unofficially” initiated 9 months ago, being able to feast my eyes on my daughter when she arrived triggered something...

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Lessons on womanhood from my mother

I’m at a time in my life where I’m figuring out for myself what it means to be a woman — and one who is after God’s heart. Topics like being a girlfriend and eventually becoming...

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Children of divorce, how will we win the fight?

“She’s okay what. Look at her. Does she not look okay?” When my parents’ divorce was finalised and the relatives were informed, I was a topic of discussion at the lunch table. Not fully...

Health

Orphaned at 28, I wanted to commit suicide

I experienced my first anxiety attack right after my mum passed away in front of me — from a brain haemorrhage in a Hong Kong hospital. For once in my life, things had actually been going along...

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My complete, imperfect family

My Kindergarten teacher often encouraged us to draw portraits of our families. With squiggly lines and less-than-perfect circles, I produced masterpiece after masterpiece to the best of my 6-year-old...

Health

The night my mother was murdered

When I first found the knife, I thought nothing of it. But I did wonder why it wasn’t in its usual place. It had been wiped clean and was lying beside a bottle of vodka and some lighter fluid...

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Are you favourite child material?

“Madam Lim doesn’t hate anyone in our class. She loves everyone. But she doesn’t have to like everyone.” That was my reply to a classmate when we were in Primary 3. We were walking in twos up...