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The three Cs of compatibility

ā€œWait,ā€ I found myself saying. He was about to board the train when he stopped in his tracks and looked at me expectantly. I parted my lips to tell him what was on my heart but not a sound came...

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A man’s take on casual dating

Did you know that the term “going steady” originated in the 1950s, where it referred to a couple that was ready to commit to a marriage? Today, “going steady” takes a looser...

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Dear, don’t take me for granted

Just recently, I had a big fight with my boyfriend. ā€œI’d appreciate it if you don’t take my efforts for granted and play your part too,ā€ I fumed over our WhatsApp chat. I was...

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Am I still significant without a significant other?

Names have been changed for privacy. Several years back, a girl called Stephanie and I worked together on a children’s camp for Church. Having only just moved on from a broken heart not too while...

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That forever kind of love

What is love? To be loved but not feel loved. Is that still love?Ā Most of us love only in our own definition of love, the way we personally receive and understand love to look like. We speak...

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Children of divorce, how will we win the fight?

ā€œShe’s okay what. Look at her. Does she not look okay?ā€ When my parents’ divorce was finalised and the relatives were informed, I wasĀ a topic of discussion at the lunch table. Not fully...

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Where is God in my heartbreak?

You have to believe you’re going to make it, GodĀ said to me. There are probably as many forms of escapism in the world as there are people. I’m quick to recognise it only because it is one...

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I couldn’t move on after my break-up

One month afterĀ the passing of my mother in April 2011, I ended a year-long relationship with my boyfriend. The relationshipĀ had already been on the rocks for months. It was adding to the...

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Why I kept having bad relationships

All through my growing up years, I was inĀ a string of bad relationships. I entered these relationshipsĀ with absolutely no standards whatsoever. I had no walls – anybody could walk in and out my...