How-tos & Handles

Struggling to get to grips with a particular issue in life? Peep the tips within — these practical guides are meant to help you to make sense and make moves.

Relationships

The art of being single

Single. Though there are plenty of us out there, the word itself conveys – inaccurately, I might add – the inevitable notion that we are alone in our singleness. It doesn’t help that every...

Faith

How to create a safer church community for people with same-sex attraction

I’ve been a Christian for 24 years – and lived with same-sex desires for nearly 20 of them. A few years ago, the Lord convicted my heart that it was not part of His will for me to act on...

How-tos & Handles

God knows we’re better together

“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another — and all the...

How-tos & Handles

You look like you need some rest

How many times have we referred to life as a battle? We’re under heavy fire on every flank. Sometimes we even get hit by friendly fire: Accusations come in our ministry, relationships fail,...

Relationships

Anything wrong with being passive aggressive? Nope. Nothing at all. Of course not

“Wah, I really cannot stand her leh, she’s damn pagro!” My colleague slumped back into her chair and sighed. “Pagro? You coin new term ah?” I asked. “No lah. She wants me to finish this...

Relationships

Have we lost the art of proper conversation?

“Okay everyone, we have a new person with us today. Let’s introduce ourselves: Name, age, what we’re currently doing, and one fun fact.” Eventually, it was the new...

Friendship

When my mentee came out to me

“I have something to tell you. I’m attracted to the same gender.” Someone I was mentoring in church had suddenly asked to meet me. She looked extremely jittery and it was clear something...

Friendship

Who are your good friends?

I’m insatiably curious about people. I find myself constantly seeking out what stories lie behind a name. Through conversations, I get to find out what makes people tick, what makes them sad...

Dating

One girl’s guide to dating well in church

“Oh, we’re just talking.” We’ve heard it many times – maybe even said it ourselves. But here’s a question: Are we scared of commitment? Because “we’re just...