Mental Health

On days the world seems too evil, remember …

There are times when the powers of evil seem solidly entrenched and nobody is able to get rid of them. We do what we can, we pray, but nothing seems to happen. The forces of evil laugh at our...

Mental Health

Can I talk about my pain?

Every night for the past few months, I’ve allowed sadness to snuggle up into bed with me. It’s the first thing I see when I wake up. It feels like I can’t escape it. Sometimes...

Friendship

I tried to save my best friend’s life; but everything fell apart

It was the third week of January, 2015 – my first year of university. I received a phone call. The voice said my best friend was in hospital. He’d met with a road accident and was fighting...

Real Life, Real People

My battle with bulimia and anorexia

Time: 3.43AM. Distance covered: 22.7km. Calories burned: 1,743kcal. Current weight: 52.7kg. That was how far shame took me. At 14 years old, I was training to be a national high jumper. My fat...

Life & Death

The kind of life I want

I was recently at a funeral wake of someone I’m not related to. My wife’s friend’s father. Let’s call him Uncle P. It was obvious that Uncle P was loved by his family,...

Apologetics

On Joy: The darkest depths of despair, and the dangerous duty of delight

Joy? What joy? Minds overwhelmed, we rage, avenge and despair. Our fathers turned to booze. These days it’s mantras, happiness summits, self-improvement gurus, personality tests and...

Mental Health

The social butterfly that grew lonely

“I think I’m struggling with loneliness.” The first time I admitted it out loud was three days ago. I was having dinner with a close friend, and we were on the topic of “things you don’t...

Real Life, Real People

Where are you, my babies? Two lost children later, I finally became a mum

One midnight in April 1999, I was pushed into the operation theatre for an emergency operation. I was then 6 weeks pregnant. My first child was growing in my right fallopian tube and the tube was...

Mental Health

How are you? No, really: How are you?

It’s a rainy Sunday morning and the guy on stage is giving his usual welcome-to-church spiel and, like he does every week, he refuses to let us sit down. Before we all get comfortable in our...