Mental Health

Please, help me see

I once believed that one day I’d change the world in a good, unselfish, non-superficial way. But real life hit me hard. I was overrun by a deep existential crisis. No, not the kind you feel...

Real Life, Real People

I thought I knew love, until it almost destroyed me

I love people. From a young age, I poured my life and heart onto others, especially the boys I was leading in church. As their mentor and older brother, I tutored them, played sports and music with...

Mental Health

On days the world seems too evil, remember …

There are times when the powers of evil seem solidly entrenched and nobody is able to get rid of them. We do what we can, we pray, but nothing seems to happen. The forces of evil laugh at our...

Mental Health

Can I talk about my pain?

Every night for the past few months, I’ve allowed sadness to snuggle up into bed with me. It’s the first thing I see when I wake up. It feels like I can’t escape it. Sometimes...

Friendship

I tried to save my best friend’s life; but everything fell apart

It was the third week of January, 2015 – my first year of university. I received a phone call. The voice said my best friend was in hospital. He’d met with a road accident and was fighting...

Real Life, Real People

My battle with bulimia and anorexia

Time: 3.43AM. Distance covered: 22.7km. Calories burned: 1,743kcal. Current weight: 52.7kg. That was how far shame took me. At 14 years old, I was training to be a national high jumper. My fat...

Life & Death

The kind of life I want

I was recently at a funeral wake of someone I’m not related to. My wife’s friend’s father. Let’s call him Uncle P. It was obvious that Uncle P was loved by his family,...

Apologetics

On Joy: The darkest depths of despair, and the dangerous duty of delight

Joy? What joy? Minds overwhelmed, we rage, avenge and despair. Our fathers turned to booze. These days it’s mantras, happiness summits, self-improvement gurus, personality tests and...

Mental Health

The social butterfly that grew lonely

“I think I’m struggling with loneliness.” The first time I admitted it out loud was three days ago. I was having dinner with a close friend, and we were on the topic of “things you don’t...