Singlehood

Dating

Lovers or just friends? Or is there a better option?

ā€œWeā€™re just friends,ā€ Esther (not her real name, to protect her dignity) insisted when I asked her about this guy sheā€™d been hanging out with. Theyā€™d been out for brunches, movies and late...

Dating

Break up, shake up, wake up: This is not a Valentine’s Day story

ā€œIā€™m staying off social media tomorrow,ā€ my best friend said on February 13, 2016. ā€œToo much PDA going on.ā€Ā I laughed. There was some truth in her statement. February 14 is a day set aside...

Marriage

The day I prayed for a wife

JanuaryĀ marked the 1Ā year anniversary of my marriage to the most incredible woman. It’s easily been the best year of my life. I believe with all my heart that sheā€™s a gift from God ā€” one...

Singlehood

An open letter to my friends who are single

Dear friends, I know what it’s like to be single. Now that I’m on the other side, I need toĀ tell you that it’s not all a bed of roses. I need toĀ tell you that there areĀ good and...

Singlehood

Give me marriage or give me death, I told God

When I was 27, I left everything I had and knew in Singapore to pursue Godā€™s calling for me as a missionary in Japan. On the morning of my 28th birthday, I sat in a cafe in Tokyo, and wrote in my...

Relationships

The quest for true love

ā€œI love the bak chor mee here!ā€Ā  ā€œI think Iā€™m in love!ā€ ā€œGod loves you!ā€ Any of these phrases familiar to you? Thanks to pop culture, loose usage of the word ā€œloveā€ has cheapened...

Relationships

Teach me to love

What is love? Christians likeĀ to go Greek when trying to understand the things of God.Ā So here we go. The Greeks, in their sophistication, would be appalled at the crude generalisations of love in...

Singlehood

The cure for loneliness: Finding peace in a Table For One

Loneliness seizes us in unexpected seasons. IĀ recently got to know a pastor who, after years of blissful marriage, suddenly experienced lonelinessĀ when her husband dived into depression. To protect...

Singlehood

Super un-single: The single-minded pursuit of perfect love

Facebook reminded me the other day to complete my decade-old profile. For one, it prompted, you still havenā€™t chosen a relationship status. And Iā€™m sure it would have added, if collected data...