Singlehood

Singlehood

I’m single. How could I possibly understand the love of Christ?

I’ve reached that age. The age when all your friends are either getting married or posting their engagement photos on Facebook. When your heart starts to hurt when you realise how single you...

Dating

Lovers or just friends? Or is there a better option?

“We’re just friends,” Esther (not her real name, to protect her dignity) insisted when I asked her about this guy she’d been hanging out with. They’d been out for brunches, movies and late...

Dating

Break up, shake up, wake up: This is not a Valentine’s Day story

“I’m staying off social media tomorrow,” my best friend said on February 13, 2016. “Too much PDA going on.” I laughed. There was some truth in her statement. February 14 is a day set aside...

Marriage

The day I prayed for a wife

January marked the 1 year anniversary of my marriage to the most incredible woman. It’s easily been the best year of my life. I believe with all my heart that she’s a gift from God — one...

Singlehood

An open letter to my friends who are single

Dear friends, I know what it’s like to be single. Now that I’m on the other side, I need to tell you that it’s not all a bed of roses. I need to tell you that there are good and...

Singlehood

Give me marriage or give me death, I told God

When I was 27, I left everything I had and knew in Singapore to pursue God’s calling for me as a missionary in Japan. On the morning of my 28th birthday, I sat in a cafe in Tokyo, and wrote in my...

Relationships

The quest for true love

“I love the bak chor mee here!”  “I think I’m in love!” “God loves you!” Any of these phrases familiar to you? Thanks to pop culture, loose usage of the word “love” has cheapened...

Relationships

Teach me to love

What is love? Christians like to go Greek when trying to understand the things of God. So here we go. The Greeks, in their sophistication, would be appalled at the crude generalisations of love in...

Singlehood

The cure for loneliness: Finding peace in a Table For One

Loneliness seizes us in unexpected seasons. I recently got to know a pastor who, after years of blissful marriage, suddenly experienced loneliness when her husband dived into depression. To protect...