How-tos & Handles

A month without porn

I woke up at 3:45AM. I had a morning appointment that day, so I was eager to go back to sleep. I tossed and turned, did a couple of pushups, read Leviticus, watched YouTube … But still sleep...

Relationships

What I learnt from an adulteress

Recently, I came across an article in which the writer chronicled her experiences of sleeping with married men. The author wasn’t looking for a long-term relationships, and since married men...

Relationships

Thank God I struggle with same-sex attraction

Yes, you read that right. It sounded ridiculous – even sadistic – to me as well, when my friend said a similar prayer years ago. But today, these seven precious words have taken on a new meaning...

Culture

The call to come home

“You Christians talk about God’s love all the time: But where is that love for people like us?” Someone struggling with same-sex attraction once asked the person who had just...

Relationships

The best lessons I learnt in school

It’s funny how time flies, within a blink of an eye, I am now Year 3 in a school that I still struggle to fully understand. I mean, one moment you’re walking into your very first lecture, the...

Faith

Orphaned, alone and depressed: My long road home

I was 8-years-old when my mother passed away, leaving no one to care for us. So my younger brother and I were sent to Chen Su Lan Methodist Children’s Home. My elder sister who was born with severe...

Relationships

Pornography was my escape

I had my first girlfriend, A, at 18. It was wonderful. I loved her and accepted her for who she really was. We were happy until the day I realised that A was seeing someone else without my knowledge....

Relationships

Are you waiting for "The One"?

For most of my life, I’ve been told to wait for The One. The one I would someday meet, who will make all of these lonely nights worth enduring. The one who may not be what I’ve wanted in a spouse...

Culture

Confessions of a former bully

I was quite the manipulator as a kid. I remember manipulating my cousins to turn against another cousin of mine, Angela. Angela was a very sweet girl, soft-spoken gentle and easygoing … But I...