Friendship

The math of friendships

Loneliness. Sometimes you feel it in the pit of your stomach, other times it creeps up like an ache in your soul. It can sometimes feel too much like a part of you – a pain that has no cure. But...

How-tos & Handles

A month without porn

I woke up at 3:45AM. I had a morning appointment that day, so I was eager to go back to sleep. I tossed and turned, did a couple of pushups, read Leviticus, watched YouTube … But still sleep...

Relationships

What I learnt from an adulteress

Recently, I came across an article in which the writer chronicled her experiences of sleeping with married men. The author wasn’t looking for a long-term relationships, and since married men...

Relationships

Thank God I struggle with same-sex attraction

Yes, you read that right. It sounded ridiculous – even sadistic – to me as well, when my friend said a similar prayer years ago. But today, these seven precious words have taken on a new meaning...

Culture

The call to come home

“You Christians talk about God’s love all the time: But where is that love for people like us?” Someone struggling with same-sex attraction once asked the person who had just...

Relationships

The best lessons I learnt in school

It’s funny how time flies, within a blink of an eye, I am now Year 3 in a school that I still struggle to fully understand. I mean, one moment you’re walking into your very first lecture, the...

Faith

Orphaned, alone and depressed: My long road home

I was 8-years-old when my mother passed away, leaving no one to care for us. So my younger brother and I were sent to Chen Su Lan Methodist Children’s Home. My elder sister who was born with severe...

Relationships

Pornography was my escape

I had my first girlfriend, A, at 18. It was wonderful. I loved her and accepted her for who she really was. We were happy until the day I realised that A was seeing someone else without my knowledge....

Relationships

Are you waiting for "The One"?

For most of my life, I’ve been told to wait for The One. The one I would someday meet, who will make all of these lonely nights worth enduring. The one who may not be what I’ve wanted in a spouse...