Relationships

My journey with insecurity

I grew up insecure. My family was not too well-to-do. Until I was about 12 years old, my sister, mom and I used to put up in the same bedroom – after which my bedroom would be the living room for...

Relationships

Should couples “test the water” on staycations and vacations?

Last year, a colleague of mine published a controversial article titled Should couples travel together. It drew many differing opinions: Some thought that it needed to be heard, while others...

Relationships

Why do I still love even when it hurts?

There are two things I’ve always been frustrated with God about, especially on bad days. The first – why do I always seem to be in the wrong place? And the second – how many times have I...

Relationships

What is intimacy?

I was listening to the radio earlier today, and there was a segment in which three professional family counsellors were sharing their perspectives on what intimacy is. I was very frustrated by their...

Relationships

Loving Jesus didn’t make me straight, but He made me whole

Coming from an all-girls school for 10 years, it was normal to admire other girls, especially our seniors. I had several relationships with boys in my secondary school days, but I realised around the...

Family

My wasted years as an orphan

My relationship with my dad was a good one as I was growing up. He loved me very much, always told me I was his favourite son (I’m the only son) and always affirmed me. He worked hard for the...

Relationships

When I traded God for my boyfriend

It didn’t happen immediately. It was so gradual and subtle that we were completely oblivious to it – blinded in our love for each other. It didn’t start out this way, of course. Even before we...

Culture

I broke all the rules I said I never would

I was always a daredevil. I loved to bend the rules to see how much I could get away with, so I often landed in trouble. I just loved trying and experiencing new things. It started with stealing...

Friendship

How to love without burning out

Recently I had a conversation with a cell member about what the limits to love are. We hear and learn time and time again, that God’s love is unconditional, sacrificial, intentional and many...