Dating

I chose to approach dating differently after 12 years of getting it wrong

Between the ages of 17-29, I was always with someone and was never single for more than 3 months. But after breaking up with my last boyfriend, I decided to intentionally be single for a while. No...

Singlehood

A plausible life of singleness

Considering how many single people there are in church, why is it that the dominant discourse surrounding singleness is: Singlehood is good, but being married is better? For younger singles,...

Dating

I thought I’d found The One

“I thought he liked you all along!” My friend exclaimed over the phone while I sobbed quietly on the other side amidst the packets of tissue. Almost a year before this, I revealed to this same...

Family

I waited 11 years to be water baptised

I wasn’t born into a Christian family. I’ve never had my parents lead me in worship, or devotions or Bible reading. And I’ve never had the luxury of going to church with my family. When I...

Family

The journey of infertility and unanswered prayer

Before you read on, you need to know that this isn’t a story with a happy ending. This story doesn’t even have an ending yet. If you’re looking for a story with a happily ever after, this...

Family

“I am not nobody’s child”: My journey out of fatherlessness into biblical manhood

I love superhero movies.  There’s something stirring about them that awakens us to come alive. We marvel at these heroes, captivated by their capes and fighting prowess. We are awed by their...

Dating

Finding hope after a bad breakup

I first started dating him in March 2010. We met during some classes we shared in college. He grew up in a Christian family, so I thought that since we shared the same faith, we would surely be able...

Dating

How to handle anger in a relationship

My boyfriend and I began to have occasional arguments less than six months into the relationship. Whenever he pointed out that I was usually the one who started the fights (true) I would justify...

Dating

Are we getting enough help from our Churches on dating and BGRs?

I have met quite a few Christians from churches that actively discourage dating among youths, or are extremely legalistic about it. In some cases, there isn’t even any teaching about dating...