Singlehood

3 practical tips for thriving in singlehood

I’ve been single for a long time. By God’s grace, I’m in a good place with regards to my singlehood, but it’s not always easy. Our joy and fulfilment is in having an intimate,...

Friendship

Trying to change someone or show them they’re wrong?

I’ve attempted to change someone for years. I know how tiring it is, having relentlessly tried ways and means to make him believe in my goodwill. I’ve tried umpteen times to convince and...

Friendship

Do you have a good friend?

“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” (Proverbs 18:24) In His Kingdom, God graciously gives us a community of friends. He...

Family

Learning to forgive my absent father

As a worship leader in church, I often sang Good Good Father and led the congregation in singing those lyrics sincerely. But for a long time, I never really realised that I was the one who did not...

Dating

Of boys and boundaries

Ever been in a situation where you had to get over someone you never actually dated? It’s tough being in that position because there was never an official change in relationship status and no...

Life & Death

Living with my brother’s suicide: Remembering God’s goodness and mercy

I was finishing up my work day when my phone rang. The voice on the other end was distraught. “Your brother is gone.” For some reason, these words from my mum didn’t quite register. I would...

Family

Do we see children as a blessing or a burden?

Some 10 years ago, I wondered if future generations of children would grow up hating life because of how unbearable it would be. While growing up, on several occasions – often deep in the night and...

Dating

Married at 18 & 21: A redemptive journey of faith, hope and love

Upon discovering an unexpected pregnancy, Mark, 35, and Sarah, 32, fought to keep their first child and married 14 years ago, with much support from their family and community. Against all odds,...

Friendship

4 questions to change the way you look at friendships

There is one thing I realise that has changed drastically between my teenage years and adulthood: Friendships get harder to upkeep. When we were younger, it seemed easier as we had less...