Real Life, Real People

When COVID-19 crashes your wedding

What were some of the challenges you faced?  Linus: Vivien and I are both frontline healthcare staff. So in the weeks leading up to our wedding in February, there was a real danger that we would get...

Friendship

I wanted to be popular, so I signed up for 10 CCAs

Growing up, I bought the idea that one had to be loud and extroverted to command the attention of others. To me, it seemed that these traits boosted one’s popularity. And going into university,...

Dating

I told my girlfriend on Valentine’s Day: “You’re not as pretty as you used to be”

Before I married my wife last year, we had been friends for 12 years during which we dated for about three. So Cheryl and I had already been going out for a fair amount of time when Valentine’s Day...

Relationships

I just wanted somebody to love me

At the age of 13, I got into my first unofficial “relationship” with a guy from church. My family and church leaders advised me against it, saying that I was too young and needed more...

Dating

Help, I’m a blur sotong: How to online date like a gentleman

“Eh, try leh.” That was definitely not what my mum said to me when I told her I wanted to look for love online (but two of my friends did!). You see, I am no oppa or Prince Charming. Far from...

Dating

Lust in dating: The secret sin we don’t talk about

My husband and I have been married for more than half a year now. Before that, we were in a courtship for just over two years. Most of that time was spent struggling with a sin we were deeply ashamed...

Dating

No, romance is not your great reward

A Christian counsellor once told me that addiction to pornography is poisonous to a marriage. “If you watch pornography, your marriage will break down.” He said that pornography kills...

Singlehood

Singlehood may be for some, but not loneliness

In the week leading up to our first women’s Bible study, I was overwhelmed by an inexplicable loneliness. I was not alone, but I felt it.  The thing with loneliness is that it isn’t just a...

Dating

When Coffee met Bagel: Diane and Ghims on redemptive love and that 7-hour first date

1. How did you initially feel about app-dating, and did you expect to meet someone through CMB? Ghims: I had just gotten out of a 2.5-year relationship that was going nowhere, and I just wanted to...