Family

Family

3 lessons I learnt when I chose to love even when it hurt

In my unconventional relationship with my mum, I’ve faced constant disappointment, annoyance, anger and absolute exhaustion. Her mental illness leads her to burst out in random spurts of anger...

Family

Learning to forgive my absent father

As a worship leader in church, I often sang Good Good Father and led the congregation in singing those lyrics sincerely. But for a long time, I never really realised that I was the one who did not...

Life & Death

Living with my brother’s suicide: Remembering God’s goodness and mercy

I was finishing up my work day when my phone rang. The voice on the other end was distraught. “Your brother is gone.” For some reason, these words from my mum didn’t quite register. I would...

Family

Do we see children as a blessing or a burden?

Some 10 years ago, I wondered if future generations of children would grow up hating life because of how unbearable it would be. While growing up, on several occasions – often deep in the night and...

Family

Do you need hope for your family?

I have been a Christian for 11 years, and was the first in my family to come to Christ. By God’s grace, my mum and sister came to know the Lord a year after me. About a year ago, my brother also...

Family

Healing the hurts: How God restored my family

Have you ever had those existential crisis moments where you wonder what things will be like if not for God’s saving grace? I pondered over that thought on multiple occasions and the one thing that...

Mental Health

In the wake of my mother’s passing, I hid my grief away

“Your mother was highly successful. A scholar. By the time she was your age, she was giving tuition to multiple children, holding a part-time job and supporting her sister’s university...

Relationships

Will I ever be a dad?

When I married my wife at 25 years old, I already knew she loved kids. She just loves children. I, on the other hand, was neutral about this matter. Until two years later, while watching a diaper...

Relationships

The prisoner was me: Forgiving my dad after years of bitterness

In life, people will hurt us and we will hurt people. No one is exempt from having to forgive and release forgiveness. But sometimes the people who are closest to us are the hardest to forgive. For...