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Should couples “test the water” on staycations and vacations?

Last year, a colleague of mine published a controversial article titled Should couples travel together. It drew many differing opinions: Some thought that it needed to be heard, while others...

Relationships

What is intimacy?

I was listening to the radio earlier today, and there was a segment in which three professional family counsellors were sharing their perspectives on what intimacy is. I was very frustrated by their...

Relationships

Loving Jesus didn’t make me straight, but He made me whole

Coming from an all-girls school for 10 years, it was normal to admire other girls, especially our seniors. I had several relationships with boys in my secondary school days, but I realised around the...

Culture

I broke all the rules I said I never would

I was always a daredevil. I loved to bend the rules to see how much I could get away with, so I often landed in trouble. I just loved trying and experiencing new things. It started with stealing...

Relationships

What a girl looks for in a proposal

As a 20-something-year-old, more and more of my peers are moving towards marriage. While my girl friends are quite excited about how they want their proposals to go, I have a feeling that their...

Dating

Don’t give your heart away too quickly

I’ve been reflecting on my 2-year relationship ever since it ended. I knew I gave away my heart too quickly. I gave it away before I could even discern if my partner was someone I would want to...

Relationships

Thank God I struggle with same-sex attraction

Yes, you read that right. It sounded ridiculous – even sadistic – to me as well, when my friend said a similar prayer years ago. But today, these seven precious words have taken on a new meaning...

Culture

The call to come home

“You Christians talk about God’s love all the time: But where is that love for people like us?” Someone struggling with same-sex attraction once asked the person who had just...

Relationships

Pornography was my escape

I had my first girlfriend, A, at 18. It was wonderful. I loved her and accepted her for who she really was. We were happy until the day I realised that A was seeing someone else without my knowledge....